prison.........again

woman

There comes a point when, no matter how hard we may try to put on a front, perhaps not even fully-conscientiously, it will break down and our weaknesses (or what we unjustly feel to be weaknesses) which we were trying to shun somehow manage to manifest themselves in the most contorted ways. In this in these midsts of anxiety, and moments of revelation, if you will, that certain truths just have to be admitted to ourselves.

These moments will also profoundly affect our sense of self and identity, our dignity and also the feeling of certainty or confidence which we formed with the former o-so-faithful protecting self.

In my case, it has been the realisation that I cant escape every single one of the stereotypes about being a woman, never mind how hard I try.
At some unexpected moment, this surge of doom and weakness, which I must accept, throws me back into a world of such “female generalisations”, and these make feel ashamed.

“Rise above it” I tell myself, but the more I repress it the more the violent the impact when my strength defeats me. If only these generalisations weren’t so commodifed to the exploitative extent that they are, then maybe they would be easier to deal with and less tainted.

If we would just realise that a chocolate bar doesn’t deal with pms, and we cannot be satisfied with “a romantic comedy with a glass of wine “, and, that a man cleaning the toilet doesn’t solve all our problems.

These matters can’t be trivialised anymore.

jeff buckley ( and leonard cohen). you will cry.......

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zLQUdHMFpBQ

Turkey

http://www.bbc.co.uk/worldservice/programmes/assignment.shtml

Honour killings or stoning for “bringing shame” to a family, hanging as punishment due to rape, genital mutilation as part of tradition, subservience and cruelty as a norm.


If this were to be happening to men AS WELL AS WOMEN in certain countries, for example to a particular race or class, if men were to be affected too by this persecution, then foreign intervention would be more or less expected. So why not when it is happening to women only?

An Absurd Reasoning - Camus

"Thus I draw from the absurd three consequences which are my revolt, my freedom and my passion. By the mere activity of consciousness I transform into a rule of life what was an invitation to death - and I refused suicide."

how can we ingore this?

A Shit*er Darkly

I saw the film A Scanner Darkly last night, and am again kicking myself for even granting it the possibility that it may have been good (I had succeeded in boycotting any of these shit American movies for a while, but well, I thought this would be different, woe is me and my naiveté).

Basically, what it amounted to was a US Government propaganda film against drugs where Keanu Reaves actually comes out with the line (with tears in hi eyes) “I’ll never take Substance D again, for the rest the of my life”. Substance D being the drug which 20% of population is on, 5 years from now, which will DESTROY OUR SOCIETY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BE WARNED, “drugs are bad, mmmkay”.

MAN IT WAS SO APPALLING, then my friend and I broke out into to mild hysterics at that “keanu’s moment” (snifflesniffile) and ended up getting “shhh”ed at. We contemplated walking out, however it would have been a precarious feat jumping over the laps of largish couple sitting next to us.

So, there was no constructive or, for that matter, noticeable story line. Somehow the majority of the narrative of the film managed to be squeezed into the last 15mins or so. And it was that typical trying to be profound but failing miserably kind of natter.

And, well, nothing of much significance ever happened, apart from Robert Downey Junior (what a f***ing stupid name, who I am embarrassed to admit to seeing a film with that inept, mono-personality, too fast speaking to make out whether he is actually coming out with real words actor) managing to, to much amusement, achieve the “camp” look very successfully yet unintentionally, and woody harrelleson acting more like a teenage American guy from shitty teenage American films, more than ever!!!! Also unintentional.

Well, at least winona ryder looked hot………

CONjugal rights!

“A conjugal visit is a scheduled visit during which an inmate of a penal institution is permitted to have sexual intercourse with a visitor in a closely controlled setting. It is generally stipulated that this visitor be a spouse. The generally recognized basis for permitting such a visit is that, even though the inmate has lost their rights with incarceration, their spouse still has the right to enjoy sexual intimacy, and cannot be required to divorce or commit adultery in order to enjoy conjugal rights.”

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Isnt this going against our prevalent attitude to marriage and relationships at the moment. I guess it is expected that prisoners don’t deserve the freedom of alternative relationships which those of us who are, ahem, “innocent” (bah, wake up). I mean, how come, all of a sudden, when marriage really doesn’t play nearly as much of a role in society as it has in past, plenty of people co-habitaed or just don’t commit at all, which is fine, is suddendly does for those prisoners who also have non-conjual relationships. Haha, I can just imagine certain “legal” people discussing, over their afternoon tea, the plight of these corrupted people with such accepted phrases as “well they’re only in this position because of a lack of father figure to create some disicipline in those brutes”.

But maybe now we shold all get married as quickly possible, so just that just in case we may find ourselves in prison (easily done), at least there will be a cerfitate giving us a legal right to have sex (because that’s what it all really amounts to right?) . If it were not for this sacred piece of paper, we are denied the most basic and fundamental of acts for us as humans (and other animals too of course), which I guess makes perfect sense since the prison system is the most elaborate institiution for de-humanization.

At what time do we ever hear about “conjugal rights” as something actually demanding to be fullfilled anyway, and as a right! Perhaps in fundamental religious areanas, or medieval times.
Some hypocrisy going on here perhaps? I wish they would stop hiding behind meaningless semantic and legal jargon and just make it obvious that we will all be better married, a in stable nuclear family………just look at all the benefits!!!!

just because they're far away.........

I was quite sickened the other day when I listening to the news on the radio, about the language use, and, the prioritise given to different issues on-going at present.
Now I know I shouldn’t expect much better, but despite that, it does not repel my frustration.

In a description of the current “terrorist plot” to blow-up up to 3 planes, or something, it described the event as “a plan by terrorists to cause untold death and destruction and commit mass murder. This was intended to be mass murder on an unimaginable scale.” And John Reid, the Home Secretary, said that “loss of life would have been on an unprecedented scale”.

Ok, well in our context maybe, yet we seem to be forgetting to be Blitz, and of course, the yet to be dangers of global warming. But what really outraged me, of which I must learn to accept I guess, was that just a few minutes after the excitement of the news report about the plot came another bulletin lasting a couple of seconds about sixty or seventy Iraqis blown up in a suicide bomb. Since these suicide bombs are continuous, they have little impact and have the deaths just become another part of our mundane news coverage.

sign and sight

http://www.signandsight.com/features/894.html

une autre perspective intéressante ?

spiked

http://www.spiked-online.com/index.php?/site/article/1321/

a refreshing approach to "that" subject?

soon they will be dominating us......

beautiful huh?! these are the trendiest accessories at the moment, coming to a goth club near you.

bursting with vitality, encrusted with swarovski crystals, and, I kid you not, the necessary leash to keep the beasts under control. wouldnt like to find one of these in my bloody mary.........

moving on.....

........time to move on to a serious blog site.


from msn spaces (the adolescent period)................ to the realm of maturity.


adieu http://spaces.msn.com/members/aporia86/, you have served me well